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Is it the Economy or is it You?

I went to a holiday party last night and caught up with a few neighbors who have daughters around the same age. One neighbor’s daughter graduated this year and is gainfully employed as a nurse and another has a daughter who will be graduating in June. She has two offers in hand and has chosen to work for a firm in Boston and will begin in June of 2010. This got me thinking about the parents that I’ve encountered whose children have graduated within the last year or so who are either unemployed or severely under-employed. Is it the economy or is it the child or in some cases the parent?

Here are some questions worth considering:

  1. Am I doing my child a favor by allowing them to live rent-free when they should be able to make enough money to at least cover the rent?
  2. Am I doing this because it’s best for my child or because I’m not ready to let go?
  3. Is my child really actively seeking employment or has he, like so many others, simply given up?
  4. How can I best support my child through this difficult period?
  5. Would my child be more responsive if I wasn’t trying to be a mother/father and a coach?

Difficult questions to answer, particularly as we near the holidays. But these are the types of conversations that need to happen between parents and their children.

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  1. Robert Ridley
    Posted October 18, 2018 at 4:46 pm | Permalink

    I’d be curious to know how much it has to do with what social class their parents are in. I have two degrees but my single mother can’t make phone calls to get me hired like people who’s parents have money. I also didn’t have a ready-made social network that resulted from living in the right neighborhoo, going to the right schools, etc , that would lead more easily to a job.

  2. Posted October 19, 2018 at 10:45 am | Permalink

    At some point, you have to let that stuff go Robert. You’ve managed to earn two degrees while being raised by a single mother. Even one degree is impressive, given your circumstances.

    Now it’s your turn to fly. LinkedIn has broken down many of the social barriers that used to exist. You can connect with just about anyone. When doing so, offer value first. That may be as simple as a compliment on a piece they wrote or a link to an article that you believe they would find of value. Get your thought-leadership out there by taking advantage of the article posting feature on LI.

    Lastly, go back to your universities and connect with the alumni placement office. Be persistent. Help is there. You just need to ask.

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